I have been engaged for two weeks now and I have already learned some very important things.
1. engagement rings have super powers
2. men care about their wedding
3. men don’t get how much you think about the wedding
From the minute that ring was slipped on my finger it was like I had super powers that allowed me to not take anything too seriously. I could have watched someone run into my car and I probably would have smiled, shrugged and asked if they were okay in the calmest voice possible. This power came in very handy since I work retail and I got engaged about a week before Thanksgiving. I went back to work and nothing phased me. There were more people in the store with more demands than ever before but I felt like I had an answer for all of it. This power unfortunately doesn’t last long and has started to wane just a bit. It was great two weeks. I think the people I work with might wish I got engaged every couple weekends.
Yes, ladies they do care about the wedding. Though they may not have planned it from childhood they have thought about it and it matters. Now I haven’t planned my wedding since childhood either but I knew a year ago that this was the guy for me so I have planned a dozen versions of our wedding and have tweaked every detail in my head a thousand times. He on the other hand has thought about it but it really isn’t as flushed out, so when asked what he pictures he isn’t really sure yet. To his credit he can quickly come up with ideas I never thought of once I start mentioning mine and it is making for what sounds like a really fun day both of us will love. The challenge is letting go of some of the magical, perfect, wedding ideas I had and come up with new ones. To say I feel like I am never going to be done planning is an understatement. I have taken to simply marking everything I love on pinterest.com and plan on showing them to him as ideas and seeing where we go from there. I know it will be a great day but I get why people elope. Luckily, my mother is supportive and not pushy with ideas cause I don’t think I could plan this with with a stereotypical mother of the bride.
Now while he is interested I don’t think he gets how much time I have spent in the last two weeks thinking about the wedding. He has pitched in and found possible locations, come up with ideas on what we should do and been flexible to ideas that I have suggested that initially he thought were a little out there. His vision of the wedding has certainly started coming together. Though every time I am on the computer and he asks what I am doing and reply with some wedding answer it seems as if a glaze goes over his eyes. It is the same look I get when he says he is reading about the Bruins recruitment class for the umpteenth time. It isn’t really disinterest it is just he can only take so much information about the variety of invitations and I only need so much info on the incoming freshman basketball players that won’t play until 2012-2013.
It has been a fun two weeks and I am very excited to see what the two of us come up with. I am guessing it will give me lots of great stories to tell for the next few months. I would tell you how many but we have changed our minds on the month about as often as we have on the kind of food.
